Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda
Hi there! I’m Marlene Aqua, and when I grow up I want to be a writer.
That’s why I’m here. I never realized I wanted to be a writer until I lost a job I had for years.
The job was in radio, and I was devastated when I lost it. It was several years ago, and luckily I ended up almost immediately finding another radio job.
I still do it part-time, and I’m back at the station where I originally worked. As they say…”what goes around comes around.”
I guess you could say I’m big on sayings. My favorite one? “Coulda, shoulda, woulda.” It was the title of an episode of Sex and The City, which, BTW, is one of my favorite shows ever. And I’ve come to realize that with almost everything I do in life, there’s a “coulda, shoulda, woulda” moment for me. I’ve pretty much accepted it and learned to live with it.
I’m sure a therapist would tell me it’s not a good thing and I need to stop thinking that way. In the back of my mind (and with a degree in social work) I know that, but it’s also become a source of stress-release for me.
Sounds more like a stress-builder than a stress-buster, right? Well, here’s the thing… for me I’ve learned that the best thing I can do is keep my sense of humor. “Coulda, shoulda, woulda” is my way of dealing with life and being able to laugh at myself. Life’s too short to take yourself too seriously. Besides, “coulda, shoulda, woulda” is really about learning from your mistakes. Actually, I’m still working on that part.